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Low frustration tolerance is caused by magnifying or over thinking about being frustrated.

For instance:

I can’t stand it when people don’t act as they should

Other people should not do things that frustrate me

The world owes me happiness

It is intolerable to be frustrated so I must avoid it at all costs

We all want life to be organized according to our preferences. This surely makes sense but the problem is we often go beyond just wanting. We believe that things should be done our way.When our desires, wants, and goals get hinder we normally feel frustrated. This in return reflects an attitude about the unwanted condition. It does not get provoked by circumstances but it results mainly from our mental processes, our ideas about people, events, feelings and concepts. In other words, we mix up our own frustrations based upon our interpretations and expectations of life events.

This reflects into ‘low frustration tolerance’. This human tendency is one of the most common causes of distress. This concept was developed by psychologist Albert Ellis. Low frustration tolerance arises from believing that frustration is intolerable and so it should be avoided at all costs.

Frustrations comes in many forms.

For example: Feeling stuck in your relationship or marriage, feeling dissatisfied with your financial status or unable to break any kind of habit like smoking. Do you think some people get the breaks in life that you deserve but don’t seem to get? Furthermore,when work doesn’t get done as expected.Similarly,frustration exists in many ways and we experience them daily. Most of us would relate to above examples. In the end, how you interpret the experience determines if you will feel frustration.

If you feel that your low frustration tolerance has started to affect your personal, occupational or social life then speak to our psychologists here. Counseling will help you to get a realistic alternative and to learn how to have a high frustration tolerance.